Sep 03, 2021
When we were preparing for marriage we were lucky to have access to a few awesome mentor couples. We both remember sitting on the couches of these wise sages late into the evening just talking about what we hoped for in a marriage. We were so excited but had no idea what was about to happen to us. As time in our marriage went on and we got 5-7 years into marriage, 2 things become clear to us:
1. We were lucky to have access to so much wisdom, but there really was no plan for our conversations. We were just hanging out and trying to absorb as much as we could, but there was no roadmap for the conversations and no roadmap for us to follow moving forward.
2. It was much more difficult to have these conversations after being married, you know...once we were supposed to have it all figured out. When we had questions, fights, or were struggling, we were embarrassed not to know the answers, or worse we felt shame for screwing things up. We NEVER asked for help, and it almost ruined our marriage.
If you are stuck and don't know where to turn for help, our online video course is a safe space to engage around tough topics.
We have put together a list of our Top 5 Reasons Virtual Marriage Coaching Works:
1. Comfy Coffee Convos
One of the perks (pun intended) of logging in and doing a marriage coaching course at home is that you can do so in your pjs with coffee in hand from the comfort of your own home. Not only can you login from your couch, bed, or hot tub; you get to engage in marriage coaching convos in the midst of your everyday life. Sometimes the hardest part of marriage is fitting things into our busy schedules. Often this reality forces us to separate marriage help from the day to day grind so the tips and takeaways don't integrate into our routine for real change and improvement.
For the record, virtual marriage coaching goes just as well with a glass of wine, whiskey, and/or your fav charcuterie!
2. Easy Does It
One of our marriage mantras is "don't ask for easy, ask for worth it." We say this to ourselves when we are trying to avoid conflict or shortcut success. However, it doesn't apply when looking for marriage resources.
Reading books don't translate well to sharing and discussion between couples. One half of the couple always feels like that one person at book club who didn't read the assigned chapter and tries to fake it during the discussion.
Marriage retreats are awesome, but they are also expensive. In addition to the cost and coordination of travel or a weekend away, they pull us out of our every day lives so we tend to make big commitments while away that we can't live up or bring home with us when we return.
Therapy has been a valuable resource in our marriage, however, it isn't always a fit for every couple or situation. If you are looking to improve on what you have, prepare for a bright future together, or just do a little refresh; therapy isn't always the best option. Coaching is designed to step into these real, practical, and applicable spaces for growth and ongoing conversations.
Our goal with creating a video coaching program was to overcome the hurdles that prevent people from getting help and investing in their marriages. Time, scheduling, money, fit, guilt, shame, etc. are all valid concerns; but we have created the most authentic, affordable, and accessible marriage coaching program on the planet. It's full of real couples sharing their stories, each session costs less than a dinner our, and you can do it on any device, at any time, from anywhere (see reasons 3-5)
3. For Real Though
In our experience, "experts" often teach and preach but don't provide behind the scenes access to what's really going on, and they don't always practice what they preach. How many times have we seen relationship experts say one thing one day and then end up in the news the next. While we do not pretend to be immune to mistakes (big and small) that could undermine our message, we aren't afraid to talk about these realities..we are far from perfect. Virtual marriage coaching allows us to let couples into our real lives and the lives of couples we work with: the good, the bad, and the ugly. We have a chance to share parts and pieces of our story for context and for insights into a marriage that has been where you are or have also been.
We are also very aware that each relationship is different and unique. We don't take a one size fits all approach to marriage saying, "just do what we did, and everything will be alright." We have been very intentional about creating a program that provides a roadmap based on research and 1000s of conversations with couples that allows each unique couple to be in the drivers seat on their marriage success journey. Our marriage coaching video course includes interviews from couples who have been through our marriage coaching program so you get a variety of stories and perspectives.
But for real though; you are unique, but you are not alone.
4. All Access Pass
Online marriage coaching is always open for business. Coordinating calendars between coach and couples is an exhausting game of "tag, you're it" when scheduling in person coaching. Online marriage coaching is as simple as logging in today, tomorrow, or in 10 years when you need a refresh. It may sound weird, but we login to our own video course and brush up on a particular topic when we are feeling a bit off or aren't on the same page. Picture it: we are sitting on our couch watching ourselves on our couch giving us tips on marriage based on our marriage. #inception
The good news is that logging into your account works 100% of time and there are no "I'm sorry the shake machine is down" moments. We add more content and resources over time and you have an all access pass to all of it. We have had couples living on different continents login and video chat with each other to invest in their relationship (contact us for a military discount...we also want to know if you are preparing for deployment so we can check in on you!). If you are on vacation to reconnect, you can login. If you are ready to sleep in different rooms, you can login in. If you are up all night because your newborn isn't sleeping, you can login. If you are living in your parents basement and planning your wedding, you can login. If you are retiring and hitting the road in an RV for a year, you can login.
I think you get the picture.
5. Bang for Your Buck
When we set out to create our marriage coaching business, we knew we wanted to find a price point that was reflective of the value included and fit into a normal household budget. As a result we created 3 price points with a variety of engagement levels so that anybody and everybody can get access to marriage coaching. Virtual coaching maximizes the time of everybody involved so we can outsmart the variables like having an office, charging per hour, marketing and selling every new piece of content, etc. You can keep more money in your pocket and still take that vacation, buy your next house, pay down student debt, scoop up some dogecoin, and save for your kid's education all while investing in your marriage.
With virtual coaching, you can invest in your marriage for a one-time cost that is equal to or less than you pay for your cable or cell phone every month. Our basic virtual marriage coaching program includes 6 video sessions, a folder full of additional resources, and access to marriage assessments. Online live coaching sessions can be added on for a minimal cost.
Seriously, virtual marriage coaching is everything we wish we had when preparing for marriage, and it is everything we need now to keep things fresh and moving forward in our quest for a meaningful marriage. Don't live another day without your roadmap to a meaningful marriage check out our packages by clicking below...